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A nurse in search of a doctor to marry

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I actually read a post a while back from some nurse who wanted to know “the best place to work so that I can find a doctor to marry.” Seriously?

Those of us who have worked with doctors wonder WHY? After all, doctors are “on call” and, especially when in residency, often see more of the hospital than their own apartments. Women are always around and temptation is everywhere. A single male MD, for whatever reason, is a prime target in any town.

And nothing is worse than seeing someone go after a doctor who is already married. If he will leave his wife for YOU, the day may very well come when you find yourself on the other side of the fence, being traded in for a “newer” model.

The societal prestige held by MDs is widely perpetuated by the medical associations and local communities. A doctor can build a fine home in the “right” neighborhood and belong to the local country club the minute he sets up shop, especially in the Deep South. Naturally, his wife is accorded the same considerations. What woman wouldn’t want a piece of THAT?

Unfortunately, these girls are easy to spot. Eternally “stalking” their doctor target, always with makeup and hairdo “just so,” and flirting shamelessly. She most likely will stop working as soon as possible after the wedding, or will work part time in his office. And the poor “mark” never seems to know what hit him!

I have painted a very ugly picture of behavior stemming from a comment that I, frankly, could not believe I was reading.

In my opinion, the whole purpose of going to college is to prepare oneself for a CAREER, and not simply a means by which to marry well. For such a person to take up a nursing school space which might have gone to someone who really DID want to make it his/her life’s work is wasteful at best.

My daughter calls it “seeking an MRS degree.”

This article is by no means intended to convey that all doctors’ wives do these things, but it is a bit of an “expose” on the ones who DO.

What are your thoughts on this, working nurses?

A woman must not depend upon the protection of man, but must be taught to protect herself (Susan B. Anthony).

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Nurse Rene

Nurse Rene has been an RN since 1978; CCRN since 1989 and attained a BSN in 2010. She has worked in virtually every specialty from Neonatology to Neurosurgery and is a Member of Sigma Theta Tau International Nursing Honor Society with a particular interest in helping students and new grads develop to their full potential. She's been married for 33 years and has a keen interest in history and in current issues as nursing continues to develop as a Real Profession. When not spoiling the grandchildren, she enjoys sewing, cooking, kayaking, camping and travel. She likes all music which does not hurt her ears, watching NCIS, Leverage, Top Gear and Criminal Minds and reads books written by Clive Cussler, Miss Manners, Erma Bombeck and Tom Clancy. She enjoys collecting Quotations for use in her writings.
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2 Responses to A nurse in search of a doctor to marry

  1. laura00seven LPN

    She’s probably a new nurse. Any nurse who has been in the profession longer than a month realizes that doctors really don’t interest nurses. People have this idealistic image of all doctors- like on tv- who are “miracle healers” and cure everyone’s illnesses, handsome, smart, smooth talking, perfect people. And after working as a nurse, most of us realize that doctors are people too. There are doctors who are good at their job, and those who are not so good. Doctors who are nice, and those who are mean. I think most nurses after a few encounters of late night calls and a response that shows the frustration or lack of empathy on the doctors part, or decisions that make you think ” what is this guy thinking?” have that idealistic image burst and we realize that the doc is just a co-worker. If someone enters nursing with the assumption they will find a cute young doctor to marry, they will very quickly have that bubble burst.

  2. kjkamk RN

    Ugh. Seen it. I don’t mind the ladies I do know who happened to fall in love with a doctor in the course of time, but I have seen ones who are looking for a doctor. To them I say, “Ugh.”.

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