The first date checklist for nurses

Posted: November 1st, 2009 | By Nick Aretakis | one comment

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Nurses: When you go on a first date, it’s a good idea to have some standards and guidelines that will help you know, quickly and efficiently, if your date is worth a second look.

You’ve already invested a great deal in yourself—all the time, energy and funds it took to get your nursing education. You know you’re worthy of a great mate, so pay attention to the ones you date!

If all goes well, this first date may lead to another, then another and you’re off on the Road to a Relationship. But don’t speed down this road in a souped-up convertible with the top down, no matter how much fun it seems! Keep your eyes open and your judgment intact.

  1. Reliable: Did your date meet you when they said they would?
  2. Accessible: Did your date give you a cell phone number and email address in case you need to reach them about an unexpected change in plans?
  3. Approachable: Did your date welcome you to contact them at any time?
  4. Conscientious: Is the planned activity both convenient and enjoyable?
  5. Accommodating: Did your date suggest and book a suitable place to meet?
  6. Thorough: Were you impressed with the arrangements that were made?
  7. Polite: Did your date show good manners?
  8. Connectable: Was it easy to talk, or did making conversation feel like “pulling teeth?”
  9. Attentive: Did your date listen to what you told them or hinted about your personal preferences?
  10. Generous: Did your date reserve a table at a restaurant suitable for intimate dialog, and did your date tip appropriately?
  11. Comfort: Did you leave with the feeling that you would really enjoy spending time together in the future?
  12. Chemistry: Are you physically attracted to your date?
  13. Integrity: Did your date seem honest?
  14. Safety: Did you feel secure throughout the evening?

If your date falls far short in any or several of these categories (one or two small deficiencies may be excusable), starting a relationship with them may not be a good idea. Don’t despair if your date was a dud—you’re now free to look for better prospects.

Nick Aretakis

Nicholas Aretakis is author of Ditching Mr. Wrong: How to End a Bad Relationship and Find Mr. Right (Next Stage Press, 2008) and hosts an interactive online community for single women looking for Mr. Right at www.ditchingmrwrong.com. More

Comments (1)

  • I’m in RN school and go to a massage therapist, who I really like (both massage skills and personally). I have been going to him for over a year and it seems to me that he also likes me. The only problem is that b/c of laws/ediquitte, and I dont want him to lose his job. He has kids and gets them 1/2 time. What do I do?

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