How do I deal with bickering and backstabbing?

Hemera | Simone Van den berg
Hemera | Simone Van den berg

People in groups, especially in professionally structured groups, tend to bicker with each other about the way things should be run. It’s human nature for people to have differing opinions that lead to arguments. No workplace would be complete without a little bickering and backstabbing. But it gets old, tends to solve nothing and creates a counterproductive work environment.

Here are some tips on avoiding it:

1. The best thing to do is to stay busy and try to avoid the controversy. Why bother with it? There are sick people who are suffering all around you. Don’t waste your time dealing with “political” intrigue. Stick to your tasks. Do the best job that you can do, and stay away from the gossip machine.

2. If you’re frustrated with a coworker, you may need to vent. If you feel the need to discuss these issues with others, make sure to vent to the appropriate people—your family and friends outside of the workplace. Don’t vent to your boss or openly to other coworkers unless you’re going to offer constructive criticism.

3. If the gossip starts to fly and you are there in the middle, don’t engage. Excuse yourself or change the subject.

4. Are you being asked your opinion on a coworker? Refuse to answer. Simply state that you don’t take sides. You’ll be known as a neutral party, and people may stop trying to engage you in these fruitless undertakings.

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2 Responses to How do I deal with bickering and backstabbing?

  1. Diana Weitzel

    I agree with most of this article but experience has taught me that even venting to those outside of work is dangerous. My motto is never trust anyone enough to vent except God. Human nature being what it is most of us cannot resist the urge to gossip. Usually with a little extra added in.

  2. Anonymous

    I totally agree with the tips given on avoiding bickering and backstabbing in the workplace. You couldn’t be involved in gossip if you keep yourself busy and don’t entertain conversation that will only ignite controversy and backstabbing of a co-worker. Great tip!