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I’m a nurse, who should I date?

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I’ve never held much validity to the concept of seeking out potential dating prospects based on compatibility of zodiac sign or Chinese calendar symbol.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not discounting those who fervently believe in these ideas, but I’ve always been more of the traditional dater, seeking out chemistry as opposed to matching based on the month of my birth. However, I do think that paralleling the idea of the zodiac signs, there are certain professions that are more likely to “mesh,” if you will, in the dating scene. Being that I’m in my mid 20’s and unmarried, I have had the opportunity to date a plethora of gentlemen, some more favorable than others, and have decided that a new criteria that I seek out involves occupation. Throughout the interview process that goes into getting to know somebody, I find myself bringing up the “so what do you do” question early on in the game. Keep in mind this is all just a matter of opinion, but nonetheless I wanted to highlight some professions that I have found to parallel the nursing world nicely.

Who should a nurse date?

Doctor–  I love medical jargon and discussing my workday with somebody who doesn’t look at me like I have three heads when I start throwing out medical terminology is a bonus. It’s also nice to be able to speak of blood and guts at the dinner table without causing your significant other to lose their appetite because, in reality, most medical people talk about that stuff at inappropriate times. If you are fortunate enough to be dating a doctor who works at your same hospital, then you can see him at work. This becomes tricky though when your boyfriend is also the one writing your orders. He gets it when you’ve had a rough day at work because that one family was very difficult, but he doesn’t get it when you voice complaints about that one obnoxious attending, because that same obnoxious attending was his mentor. You are probably the only significant other he’s had that truly understands why he has to work such long hours because you see it firsthand.

Teacher–  People oftentimes say that teachers and nurses are very similar individuals in different professions. Both are in service-like arenas that demand caring, patient personalities. The flexibility of a nurse’s schedule bodes nicely with summers off that teachers get. Teachers and nurses share a passion for people in general, lending to a shared interest that can be the framework for a relationship. I also think that these two professions, although both very important, sometimes don’t get the recognition they deserve, and perhaps humility is another shared trait between the two working individuals.

Accountant–  These are the type of guys you scare away with talks of that bloody chest tube insertion, who pass out when you bring home supplies to practice your IV skills on him, and who believe girls don’t poop and babies don’t throw up. However, if you are at all like me being the girl who can’t stand doing my taxes or anything having to do with money, you’re set. I have found that these number-focused minds ground me when I have irrational urges to take a sporadic trip to Italy for a week. And let’s face it, when you have kids and want to stay home with said kids, you won’t have to worry about the finances.

Lawyer–  Bottom line, if you ever get sued, you’re good to go  :)

Pilot–  Perhaps one of the other professions next to firefighter or security guard that has a wackier schedule than you. These three or four day work week guys have days off in the middle of the week just like nurses: ideal. However, they can also be gone three to four nights a week, off flying people to exotic locations around the US or even the world. If you are a person that likes to travel (like myself) hold onto these guys tight, because nothing is more conducive to traveling than a nurse’s three day work week, and nothing is more conducive to cheap traveling than dating a pilot. A negative? They fall into that category of looking at you funny when you mention comments about ventricular septal defects…

Fellow nurse–  Nobody will understand the hurt of losing of patient better than a fellow nurse. Nobody will revel in your joy of seeing a former patient doing well better than a fellow nurse. Nobody could have your same exact schedule, week after week, unless they were a nurse. You won’t ever run out of things to talk about, that’s for sure.

Obviously I have left an innumerable amount of occupations off this list. But in this game called life, I have decided that much like ‘Scorpios are most compatible with Pisces or Cancers,’ nurses have to take into account compatibilities as well. Some of you will say “there is much more to a person than the job they have,” which is indeed true. But I also feel as though I am the person who I am today because of my occupation, because I am a nurse. And my hope is that the career stars will align when eventually choosing my life companion.

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Nicole Lehr

Nicole Lehr is a pediatric nurse. She can be described in three adjectives: content, thankful and fortunate. All credit for the aforementioned description can be given to the love she has for her profession as an RN. She graduated from University of Florida with her Bachelor’s in Nursing and moved to Atlanta to work at the Cardiac Stepdown Unit at Children’s — her dream job.

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11 Responses to I’m a nurse, who should I date?

  1. Lyn Daugherty

    Do yourself a favor and leave doctor and pilot out of the equation. I dated two of the first, and one of the second variety. They, like nurses and teachers, are “very similar individuals in different professions”. They are detail-oriented, OCD types who are picky about EVERYTHING! They will drive you insane! Most MDs are on call at least occasionally, which leads to missed dinners and broken sleep. Pilots, depending on their route, can be gone for up to a week at a time. I’m just sayin’…

  2. Nicole Lehr Scrubs Blogger

    @ Lyn- They all can’t be THAT bad… I mean, let’s use a little glass half full rationale. But yes, I’ve been left alone at the dinner table on dates before due to persistent pages that must be returned promptly. And detail-oriented and OCD could indeed be used to describe some others that I’ve encountered. A week out of town? Been there, experienced that. But I am sticking to the possibly too idealistic, possibly naive motto that absence makes the heart grow fonder. **Sigh** Thanks for the comment :)

  3. Ro Abreu

    How about other service personnel, like police officers and firefighters, EMTs/Paramedics? They all share our desire to help, often work shifts like we do, and usually have the same graveyard humor that keeps us sane. Also, they generally know how to get body fluids out of their own clothes 😉

  4. I like the accountant idea. Not unlike nursing, it’s a profession in constant demand, so your spouse or sig other will, one hopes, endure less than the usual share of layoffs. One downside: Don’t count on any nights out between March and about mid-April!

    How about a veterinarian? It’s technically a form of healthcare. Plus all the vets and vets’ assistants I’ve known and worked with have been utterly sweet folks. And don’t discount the cost benefits of having someone in house to care for any four-legged friends!


    how about a soldier? i am really want to know about it, because of me have been date with this profession…

  6. Nicole Lehr Scrubs Blogger

    @Ro: Agreed. 100%.
    @James: A vet- great idea! Haven’t dated one of those… very sweet folks indeed, intelligent and passionate. My accident-prone four-legged friend would benefit greatly from such a relationship. I mean, it’s really all about what I can get out of the deal, right? 😉 Kidding… Thanks for the comment.
    @Noviana: ‘Tis a sad day when Nicole is giving relationship advice to others. But since you happened to ask… I’m a worrier. I think my nerves would get the best of me. But anybody who is willing to risk his life for his country is a hero in my book from the get-go.

  7. Elisabeth

    Lots of nurses seem to go out with police officers, maybe something to do with seeing people at their worst and witnessing some awful things? My bestfriend and I are both RNs and I’m married to a Policy Analyst and she’s with a construction worker, so it really can be anyone as long as they suit you I guess.

  8. Meredith

    Many of the happily married nurses that I know are married to practical types – construction workers, engineers, computer programmers, therapists, social workers, entrepreneurs, etc. I think nurses generally appreciate someone who is handy and independent. Plus they usually are the types that don’t mind your crazy nursing shift-work schedule because they like having time to themselves too.

  9. Nicole Lehr Scrubs Blogger

    @ Elisabeth and Meredith- Yes, and yes. I couldn’t agree more. The best quote I have heard yet, “it really can be anyone as long as they suit you.” Well said.

  10. Mo

    I avoid dating in the medical field, Nurses and teachers. Nurses because of their awful work schedules… The work schedules of having to work holidays, having to work nights, most weekends, having to sleep during the day, having to constantly switch their schedules around to get specific days off probably months in advance and can’t just up and take off for a weekend. For example it’s so inconvenient for someone that works a day job, say he gets home at 5 she’s just getting ready to go to work, has to skip dinner to get to work when she works weekends then at least part of the weekend is semi ruined because she has to sleep during the day, you have to be quiet while she sleeps etc… Holidays hell no I want to spend holidays with my girlfriend or wife I don’t want the years of her having to work holidays your home by yourself for the holidays, or having all your family over but she has to WORK have to have holidays on another day because she has to work. Nurses are much better suited for doctors or someone else that has weird schedules that can work around each other’s schedules better or have very similar schedules. Doctors and Nurses would be great together because they both have odd schedules; they can plan their schedules together…

    I’ll gladly date an accountant, banker, city or government employee or at least someone that has a decent schedule, works for the most part during the day, doesn’t have the screwed up schedule. A City or government employee would be awesome to date. They get all the holidays off, even the odd holidays (yes most of the positions you work your way up the pay scale but that’s most careers), almost all their weekends they get off and their schedules are pretty laid back and flexible.

    Teachers I also could not stand to date because of the constant BS politics and most of the teachers constant complaining how they don’t get paid enough, how a lot of the teachers complain about the so famous statement “it’s not about the money it’s about the students” then they eventually start complaining about I need more money I need a raise, I never make enough. Quit your whining and do something about it!! Teachers also think there is nothing they can do and believe they are practically held “hostage” regarding salary and pay by the “school system”.

  11. E

    Unfortunatly I think people in the Medical profession limit themselves for the dating pool especially Nurses because of their shitty shedules and shitty working hours. I refuse to date a Nurse or in the medical field simply because of their awful working hours.

    Nurses work holidays and start at the bottom which means they get the night shift and that leaves the boyfriend if he’s not in the Medical field he will often eat dinner by himself, celebrate most holidays by himself or have to constantly delay holidays because of her crappy schedule.

    Nurses, doctors and other medical professionals belong together because they have similar shitty schedules and works better for them then someone that works a regular schedule.

    It just totally would suck being with a nurse. Say like when you (the guy works regular job hours) he get’s home like at 5 or 6, she’s going to work when your getting home, she’s get’s home in the mornings while your going to work, holidays most likely alone, or with your family and have to constantly delay holidays to spend together because she most likely will work holidays. Plus also when you’re ready to go do something she’s usually to tired to do anything because of her schedule and sleeps during the day, and works at night.

    I will only date women that works regular hours, has weekends off and doesn’t have to schedule holidays around her schedule.

    A nurse and a person that works regular working day hours I think causes a lot of tension and stress in the relationship. It’s totally because of the constant opposite working schedules and always having to work around her schedule and most of the time like 98% of the time have to plan spending the holidays alone.