Can’t we all just get along?

cat-and-dogSo this week I got a response to one of my postings that was……how do I put this nicely…….angry, it was angry.  That got me thinking about how serious and stressful of a job we have, and how we need to just chill out a little when we’re dealing with each other.  This goes not only for getting along with other nurses at work and outside of work, but even when we are reading and writing blogs.

At work we deal with so much.  Angry patients and families, pain, death, moron physicians/residents and how we as nurses treat each other.  We can try to calm our patients and families down, relieve our patient’s pain, show our strong side when a patient dies and use the residents like our puppets while we make them think all of our ideas are their great ideas…..but we can’t control how we all treat one another.

We have all heard that nurses eat their young, but I really believe that it not just the young, it’s everyone.  We treat each other terrible, when we should be leaning on each other.  We all have to deal with the same things at work, yet we act like we are islands and don’t need anyone else to get through our day.

With a shortage of experienced nurses and the mystery of what health care reform changes loom in our future, now is the time for us to learn to treat each other as professionals.

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Rob Cameron

Rob Cameron is currently a staff nurse in a level II trauma center. He has primarily been an ED nurse for most of his career, but he has also been a nurse manager for Surgical Trauma and Telemetry unit. He has worked in Med/Surg, Critical Care, Hospice, Rehab, an extremely busy cardiology clinic and pretty much anywhere he's been needed.Prior to his career in nursing, Rob worked in healthcare finance and management. Rob feels this experience has given him a perspective on nursing that many never see. He loves nursing because of all the options he has within the field. He is currently a grad student working on an MSN in nursing leadership, and teaches clinicals at a local university.Away from work, Rob spends all of his time with his wife and daughter. He enjoys cycling and Crossfit. He is a die hard NASCAR fan. Sundays you can find Rob watching the race with his daughter.

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6 Responses to Can’t we all just get along?

  1. Sean Dent Scrubs Blogger

    Well said.
    Well said.

  2. Miriam Bookey

    I agree Rob. Thanks for this! I’m glad you talk from the heart. Don’t change your style or your posts because one person found offense.

  3. Paul_APN

    I have started paying attention to the words I use and the tone behind them when i speak to patients and my peers or “the nursing staff”.

    Am I super NP or Super Nurse Nah actually I am kinda lazy. I prefer to have simple easy interactions with my patients. If I can set the tone in my head and the interactions with my patient it is a LOT less work. It helps with non-patient interpersonal interactions too. And trust me I have people I can’t get this attitude to function because they simply refuse to understand the our job is about the patient not the staff caring for the pateint.

    I found that “my LPN” had a softer attitude toward patients ‘ non-compliant’ behaviors when I asked him to write “patient CHOSE not to put exam gown on” as opposed to patient REFUSED gown. it is amazing how much easier his life is and I don;t start with a frustrated patient who tussled with “the nurse” over a gown.

    Patients are not old they are chronologically experienced.

    I am amused that you say can’t we all get along but characterize physicians and residents as morons. Residents are students and don’t know what they think they do. And believe it or not I discovered there are reasons the MORONS do something that “just ain’t right” by all we hold holy. Yeah I ate interns for breakfast and a resident or 2 for lunch, respected an occasional fellow and sometimes saw the attending.

    If you step back and ask them why you will be amazed at the things you learn ou tof the mouths of babes.

    Check out Martha Rodgers nursing theory keeping it in mind makes a difference.

  4. Rob

    I am a nurse. I talk like a nurse. And we have all thought that a physician and resident, and even a NP was a moron. I have even said it many, many times.

    Are all of them morons? Absoultely not! Its the handful of them that are actually morons that give them all a bad name. Just like the handful of moron nurses that give us a bad name.

    Curious to know how you would have took this before you were an APN……

  5. Amy B

    I am a nursing student now, but was an x-ray tech for a few years before going back to school. While I had a few experiences as an x-ray student with technologists “eating their young,” I have had many more while in nursing school. I have noticed in working with nurses as a technologists, many seem to have a biting demeanor that easily come out. Why is that? Stress? I really hope I never become one of those.

  6. JoAnna W.

    So true, as a nurse of 5 years I have been dealing with this issue since graduation and it has contributited to the problem of job unstatisfaction. I do not comprehend how people can be so snippity. How do we teach, encourage, ect. nurses to be proffesional torwards each other—any suggestions?